Post by MonsterX on Dec 29, 2009 16:32:06 GMT -5
More random advice from someone who thinks they know what they are talking about incoming!
One thing you can do is offer the woman YOUR phone number. It’s unconventional but let’s face it; woman have to deal with all sorts of creeps on a daily basis. By giving her your number you take the pressure off her and she doesn’t have to worry quite so much whether or not you’re a psycho killer trying to track her down. (Fa-fa-fa-fa, fa-fa-fa-fa-fa-faaaa.)
Anyway, when someone calls you or you phone them ask em out to a casual lunch or dinner. Stress the fact that it’s just for fun so you both have an opportunity to meet each other in a no stress environment. (Don’t say it like that, imply it.) Let her pick the place if possible and be sure to open the door for her and pick up the bill. (And tip well so you don’t look like a cheap ass.) This is not a ZOMG DATE; it’s getting a bite to eat with your new friend! If it goes well then maybe you can ask her on a date another time but that’s for latter.
The worst that can happen is that she’s not interested and if not that’s cool; ask her again sometime down the road or something. The thing is – don’t be afraid of possibly “ruining” your relationship with someone by taking the intuitive to get together to hang out especially if all you do is chat online anyway. Who knows, this person might end up as a lover or just a friend, but you’ll never know unless you meet up in real life!
Second –
It might not seem like it, but talking to women is nothing to be nervous if you follow these simple rules – (Patent pending.)
1. Take a deep breath and stop worrying about what other people are thinking about you and whether or not they are judging you. (Including but not limited to the person you’re talking to.) People have more important things to be worrying about and you’re fine and there’s nothing wrong with you. If those thoughts start creeping into your head focus your thoughts outward on your environment. This can take some practice.
2. Be confident. You’re a great person, you’ve come a long way in your life and you can do anything you want to do so long as you’re willing to work hard enough for it. Be confident because of whom you are, but also because chicks dig confident men. Just be friendly! You can do it!
3. Be a snappy dresser. I don’t mean be one of those people who always follow the hottest fashions and stuff, but wear moderately stylish clothing. This can be as simple as a pair of jeans, a good looking un-tucked collared shirt and a good pair of well maintained shoes. Women dig a well dressed man. PROTIP – Chicks are especially impressed by good shoes. Scientists believe this has to do with the gene that makes woman horde hundreds of them in their closets. WEAR GOOD SHOES BRO.
4. Smell good and if you have your own place make sure it smells good. Just don’t overdue it on the cologne. Nuff said.
5. This one’s important – Keep most of the conversation focused on the woman. Ask her about herself, listen to her stories and act like you are completely fascinated by what she has to say. Women want people to empathize with them. If you’re a good listener than this should be easy for you.
6. Chicks love a funny guy. Even more so than a good looking one. Seriously, with woman it’s more about personality than anything. There has been actual research done on this that you can look up on the interwebz. (Men on the other hand are pigs and judge woman by their appearance. Stupid men.) So have a good sense of humor, don’t take you’re self too seriously and have fun!
7. HAVE FUN AND YOU CAN DO IT!
Advanced tip – Every man has to know how to cook one thing REALLY good so that when he brings a woman home he can impress her with his culinary skills. Women get gushy when the man they are dating cooks for them. I don’t know why but it’s true.
And that’s it really! Since you are going back to school things will be looking up for you. It’s a great place to meet other people with whom you share similar interests.
One thing you can do is offer the woman YOUR phone number. It’s unconventional but let’s face it; woman have to deal with all sorts of creeps on a daily basis. By giving her your number you take the pressure off her and she doesn’t have to worry quite so much whether or not you’re a psycho killer trying to track her down. (Fa-fa-fa-fa, fa-fa-fa-fa-fa-faaaa.)
Anyway, when someone calls you or you phone them ask em out to a casual lunch or dinner. Stress the fact that it’s just for fun so you both have an opportunity to meet each other in a no stress environment. (Don’t say it like that, imply it.) Let her pick the place if possible and be sure to open the door for her and pick up the bill. (And tip well so you don’t look like a cheap ass.) This is not a ZOMG DATE; it’s getting a bite to eat with your new friend! If it goes well then maybe you can ask her on a date another time but that’s for latter.
The worst that can happen is that she’s not interested and if not that’s cool; ask her again sometime down the road or something. The thing is – don’t be afraid of possibly “ruining” your relationship with someone by taking the intuitive to get together to hang out especially if all you do is chat online anyway. Who knows, this person might end up as a lover or just a friend, but you’ll never know unless you meet up in real life!
Second –
It might not seem like it, but talking to women is nothing to be nervous if you follow these simple rules – (Patent pending.)
1. Take a deep breath and stop worrying about what other people are thinking about you and whether or not they are judging you. (Including but not limited to the person you’re talking to.) People have more important things to be worrying about and you’re fine and there’s nothing wrong with you. If those thoughts start creeping into your head focus your thoughts outward on your environment. This can take some practice.
2. Be confident. You’re a great person, you’ve come a long way in your life and you can do anything you want to do so long as you’re willing to work hard enough for it. Be confident because of whom you are, but also because chicks dig confident men. Just be friendly! You can do it!
3. Be a snappy dresser. I don’t mean be one of those people who always follow the hottest fashions and stuff, but wear moderately stylish clothing. This can be as simple as a pair of jeans, a good looking un-tucked collared shirt and a good pair of well maintained shoes. Women dig a well dressed man. PROTIP – Chicks are especially impressed by good shoes. Scientists believe this has to do with the gene that makes woman horde hundreds of them in their closets. WEAR GOOD SHOES BRO.
4. Smell good and if you have your own place make sure it smells good. Just don’t overdue it on the cologne. Nuff said.
5. This one’s important – Keep most of the conversation focused on the woman. Ask her about herself, listen to her stories and act like you are completely fascinated by what she has to say. Women want people to empathize with them. If you’re a good listener than this should be easy for you.
6. Chicks love a funny guy. Even more so than a good looking one. Seriously, with woman it’s more about personality than anything. There has been actual research done on this that you can look up on the interwebz. (Men on the other hand are pigs and judge woman by their appearance. Stupid men.) So have a good sense of humor, don’t take you’re self too seriously and have fun!
7. HAVE FUN AND YOU CAN DO IT!
Advanced tip – Every man has to know how to cook one thing REALLY good so that when he brings a woman home he can impress her with his culinary skills. Women get gushy when the man they are dating cooks for them. I don’t know why but it’s true.
And that’s it really! Since you are going back to school things will be looking up for you. It’s a great place to meet other people with whom you share similar interests.